My first car

Site Admin Joined: Jan 06, 2010 Posts: 485

yeah, I'd worry too... yep, stick to the volvo... atleast, you won't draw suspicion even when you ARE up to something! (j/k, ok?)

And you don't offend at all.. in fact, you're only making me laugh here! Hmm... so the same is true for men as well...? I knew it! Blame it on marriage I say...! Shocked

Active member Joined: May 23, 2010 Posts: 54

yep, i think maybe it's just human nature, when you're single maybe people try a little bit harder to look better. of course, once you're married you're generally older so the years catch up to you. then there's the whole having children thing (don't have any myself thankfully! Smile

) which from what i hear really turns everything to hell. we're sticking to dogs, ourselves.

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On a serious note, I've started to think most human beings are not monogamous by nature and it's just one of those things religion/society/responsibility has forced on man. But that doesn't mean we're wired for it. Maybe, I'm wrong... but I just find it unnatural spending the rest of your life with one person only. I know lots of factors come into play here, but our inherent nature just isn't one of them. (with exceptions, of course!).
Hmm... which reminds me, how on earth did we switch from cars to monogamy!!!

p.s. yep, stick to dogs! You know what they say of children: 'first they destroy your life, then become the most important part of it! Wink

Active member Joined: May 23, 2010 Posts: 54

That is a great saying about kids -- too funny. I'd never heard it before, but I'll use it from now on. I like well behaved kids, in small doses, but always appreciate that I can come home to my own relatively quiet house.

We have moved quite a bit if we're going on to a discussion of monogamy! I'm game Smile

I agree that we're not 'wired' for monogamy. I think we've evolved over tens of thousands of years and the idea of monogamy, religion/marriage, etc is all relatively recent. So, I think we agree on that.

I think it's natural to be attracted to other people, but out of love and respect for one's partner, a person should be able to either find ways to avoid situations of temptation, or if it comes to a point where the person wants to cheat, then they should break off the relationship. Carrying on a relationship while cheating is the worst kind of betrayal, in my mind.

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I know...and agree with what you're saying. But things are never so black and white, and it's always those grey lines in between where most of us falter. But when all is said and done, I too draw the line at honesty - that if you do cheat on your partner, then tell them and walk away.

And yet, I even understand those who don't. Like what if it was just an impulsive thing and you never meant to hurt your partner...and deep down inside you really did love them. OR you did fall in love with someone else, but couldn't leave your partner cause of children/financial issues etc....
see, lots of grey lines...! Wink

Active member Joined: May 23, 2010 Posts: 54

Those are very good points. It's not as cut and dry as I would like it to appear. There are always circumstances to consider...

That said, I don't believe in 'sex addiction' or any of the other excuses a lot of high profile cheaters have fallen back on. I've been on both sides of the cheating thing (one of those mistakes in my youth I warned you about!) so I think I have a bit of perspective. Getting dumped for another guy was not nearly as bad as finding out the girl I was with was getting in on with another fellow behind my back. In that second instance I just felt like a sucker.

This may also sound hypocritical but the one instance where I'd say not to tell a partner is if you know it will hurt him/her and it was a one time thing. In that case, I'm not sure what good comes from the knowledge. But if it's something that is going to happen repeatedly then it is wrong to hide it. So there's another shade of gray!

Site Admin Joined: Jan 06, 2010 Posts: 485

yeah, I know. Ok... so so far we agree:
- That Tiger woods excuse is just too extreme!

- Partners feel like shit/suckers if he/she is cheated on!

- one night stand - once in a blue moon is best kept secret - simply because no good will come out of telling!

- Long term affairs (repeat offenders?) should come clean and tell their partners and end the relationship as the 'honest' thing to do!

Hmm.....

Active member Joined: May 23, 2010 Posts: 54

Haha, yes Tiger Woods is exactly who I was thinking of...at least his soon to be ex-wife will be able to take care of their kids, who are hopefully young enough to not be too scarred by this. TW and a lot of the U.S. politicians blame this 'disease' of addiction. No one wants to take personal responsibility....the most ridiculous ones are the pols who crusade against homosexuality and then get caught with male prostitutes, etc.

Site Admin Joined: Jan 06, 2010 Posts: 485

ha ha I know....blame it on an addiction: sex, drugs, alcohol - anything goes...and vola you have the perfect excuse for your misdeeds! Too bad for normal people you see.... that taking responsibility for one's actions can really get stressful at times, you know.... Rolling Eyes

Posted: Fri May 28, 2010 10:12 pm

chiefjohn wrote:

I still have my first car...a 1991 Volvo 240, it was a hand me down from my dad. I haven't kept it up like I should have...I should sell it or donate it but I'm too sentimental about it. It's funny how we get so attached to cars. Maybe I'm just a softie, but so many good memories in that car.

I too hate to sell my cars. I sold only one so far, and keep one even back in Moscow for occasional visits - and I don't live there for more than 10 years already LOL

New member Joined: Mar 30, 2011 Posts: 1

95 Pontiac Bonneville..my brothers wife has it now!

Site Admin Joined: Jan 06, 2010 Posts: 485

Welcome to Fun and Safe Driving kredgrape! Hope you will find lots of information here to help you drive better and keep safe Smile

Member Joined: Apr 03, 2011 Posts: 42

Most of my driver education was in a Hyundai hatchback. The small size was a significant advantage in the parking test. Afterwards I immediately bought a 1977 Cutlass Supreme. It was twice the size and probably three or four times the power. Poor gas mileage, but very comfy seats and a great deal for the low price I paid. I had it a month before destroying most of the front end on the back of a van.

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(I shouldn't be laughing here, but I am!)

I crashed my first car too 3 months after I got it. It was a Honda city - beautiful, silver and sleek - a gift from my father. That put an end to his generosity pretty quick though! Wink

Member Joined: May 31, 2011 Posts: 11

Could you please tell me the mileage and price of your Car?