Ahhhh!!!

New member Joined: Mar 29, 2009 Posts: 1

Hey everyone! I have a bit of an issue that I'd like to get some help with.

Today I was pulling out of a busy parking lot wanting to make a left, crossing over 4 lanes of traffic. Everything was clear so I sped up and went but there was some dude who was driving fast and didn't stop even though I was clearly in the middle of the road. Now, I know I should've stopped and waited but I went and he had to slam on his brakes and I heard the screeching sound b/c the roads were wet. Nothing happened and I tried not to make eye contact but I saw him and his face said everything...

Now, my issue is, whenever I make a mistake, whether it be a small one that means nothing (ex. rubbing the curb when parallel parking) or like the one I explained above, I breakdown. I start shaking, and think omg I have to change my license plate, etc.... Yea, I get pretty dramatic. But, idk why!!! It really bothers me! Does anybody else feel the same way? Or if you did, what have you done to calm yourself down?

PS. I try and think to myself, nothing happened its okay, but it doesn't really work...

Thanks

DL

Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 2:44 pm

Umm, well, you definitely was on the wrong - but you know this yourself, no need to re-iterate Smile

How to deal with that? That's a good question. How do you deal with your other mistakes, not related to driving? Do they cause similar effect? Just from the sound of it I would say that probably yes.

If that is so, looks like you need to figure out why are you doing this. Others can have only clues and tips, the only person who can positively say - yes, this is it - is you. What I can tell you based on my life experience - probably your parents or guardian(s) were quite strict with you and punished you for every mistake you made.

If this was indeed the case, then you have a long and hard road ahead trying to fix your thinking and convince yourself that it is OK to make mistakes, we all do this. Good luck with it Smile